• Elle

Chatting with Abi


Abi is a long time friend, who I have recently reconnected with. She speaks with vulnerability and acts with compassion. I really admire her resilience and attitude. This blog post is more a vulnerable, exposing chat between two friends. Sharing grief, love, manifestation - life. This "chat" has two components. First part, getting to understand what has been going on for Ab during her healing journey, my response and Ab's reply.


You are an open book, what do you get from this? and what do you lose? (with this what I am trying to refer to is, (because I'm the same) being over-empathic, over sharing for others to take advantage or in a positive way - connect at a deeper level.

  • Open book to inspire or help others

  • Create a strong personal connection or bond

  • Judgement & criticism - ALOT

  • Over-empathetic or Insane? (it was once said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results)

  • My power of being an open book is being drained by assholes who don't acknowledge or appreciate the worth behind my words

  • In my past, I have been fairly poor in judgement (muting the intuitive voice in my head) leading to many people turning my truth into nothing but manipulation and gaslighting.

What experiences / challenges in your life made you who you are? What have you learnt?


Experiences As above taken advantage of in relationships (romantic and friendly) since I was a teenager. Including;

  • Mental and physical abuse from partners in high school - leading to more in the future

  • Heartbreak

  • Drug abuse - myself and partners

  • Witness of partner suicide attempt, close friend suicide, miscarriage and murder of partners dad all within 12 months

  • Abandoned when in dark / low places by people I trusted

  • Mental health issues

Learnt

  • Dwelling and soaking in my sorrow was only draining my energy further

  • Training my thought pattern would benefit me immensely

  • Finding what makes me happy and practicing that (over putting all your energy into other people's happiness)

  • Focusing on inner healing and peace

  • Set strong boundaries

  • Stop trying to fix broken people when you are in pieces yourself

  • Support of close friends, family and people going through similar things

What made you start your business?


Well, I actually had my makeup business 'AJ Makeup Pad' for around 5 years before starting my brow journey. To be completely raw with you. I was very bored with makeup. It became somewhat of a chore to me and I didn't want to be putting my energy into something that wasn't giving it back in return. When moving back from Newcastle I was encouraged by a good girlfriend to open a beauty shop in town. As we didn't / don't have any beauticians in Coota, I really thought about it. In the end I asked myself what it was I still enjoyed about doing makeup and the answer was brows. I had been following Lana Tarek on Instagram for years and absolutely loved her work. I travelled to Sydney and completed a course with her and violà, here we are. Once I started, I fell in love. I was completely obsessed. I wasn't only obsessed with creating magic on my clients, but I found it calmed my anxiety being able to connect with so many beautiful people. Brows is my new therapy!

What is A brows and Body? and How / (will - does) your service offer more than brows?


A Brows & Body is more than just brows. I dream of it being a space filled with magical calming energy, a space that makes you feel safe and cared for. Not only do I want to help bring my clients self-loving energy, but I want to build deep connections, allowing and encouraging them to speak freely about taboo subjects that might not be discussed anywhere else. I want to encourage and normalise conversations around topics such as mental health, sexuality and sex. That being said, I decided to donate $1 from every service to Beyond Blue. As it is my therapy to work my magic on you and for you, I want you to use your appointment time (if you feel safe enough) to vent about anything you like. If you want relaxing music or a guided meditiations, ask for it. If you want to sit in silence, relax or manifest, let me know and I will ensure our environment is as still and peaceful as possible. My main dream for A Brows & Body is listen and inspire.